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  • Do You Pay Attention To Your Vibe?

    Posted on March 11th, 2011 Robyn No comments

    So now that we have set the stage, lets get things started with a real life example drawn from the pages of my life. Last weekend I went to a friend’s house for dinner and had invited a female friend (lets call her Cathy) whom I hadn’t seen in a few months to come along. I was looking forward to seeing her as we haven’t seen each other much in the last few years, mostly because of reasons like I am going to tell you about. Cathy within the first 5 minutes of our first conversation in several months launches into a typcial “I’ve been WRONGED” routine. (She’s had several over the years). This one went something like this: “You are NOT going to believe what Carl (ex-husband) did to me. He friend-ed that skank (a woman ex-husband had been “e-cheating with prior to divorce which was final early 2010) on FB, and then she friend-ed Paul and Sam (two shared male friends of the ex-husband). Can you BELIEVE the audacity of him?! I called and told him it was unacceptable and totally disrespectful for him to rub her in my face and he needed to knock it off.” I just looked at her and the only thing I could respond was “So? What do you care? You are divorced. And why are you friends with your ex on FB and why are you spying on him?” Turns out she wasn’t friends with the ex but she was friends with two common male friends who were also FB friends with her ex so she was seeing things via her News Feed off of their FB pages. She got very defensive to my comments saying that she wasn’t spying and she doesn’t post at all (so she is basically a voyeur :-) ) and she “only has 45 friends on FB”. Man, she spouted off that number like it was as meaningful as her blood pressure or cholesterol. So…..LOL I am not sure there is a web page long enough to discuss in how MANY MANY different ways this situation is pathway to personal misery and a pretty good example of how a lot of people operate without even being conscious of what they are doing but here we are; we’ve arrived at the first practice tip. While many guru’s will say that in order to work towards enlightenment, raise your consciousness, raise your vibration, your personal frequency, your “vibe”, you need to “just allow the moment to be” or to practice meditation or devotion.  I say the first step before you can allow the moment to be is this: BE SELF AWARE. This is not the same as being self absorbed.  As someone who has to operate in the real world and deal with real people, my best advice before you can even begin thinking about raising your vibration, whatever your motivation is to do so, is to start by stepping outside of yourself, your life, your behavior and observe yourself as if you were observing another person. Take Notice. If you were watching someone like Cathy would you jump right in and co-miserate and feed the story with encouragement,helping to increase the negative energy in the situation? Or would your first observations be: 1) why is she hanging on to the past? 2) why does she believe that the decisions of these 4 people have anything to do with her at all, particluarly given they probably don’t even realize that she sees the activity, 3) and why would she want to put herself into a situation where she knows it is possible that she will see things that will upset her.  Practice, for just a week, being able to notice your behavior when others are negative and noticing how much you contribute to your own misery. Notice how the decisions you make, the topics you talk about, the things you think about, the way your are behaving make you FEEL as they are occurring. I am sure that when Cathy was telling her story, she felt important and justified, not to mention interesting and exicting because she had a story. She was also probably looking for someone to validate her indignation and for some sympathy. Eckhart Tolle’s “pain body” doing its best work. So ask yourslef if your decisions, thoughts and actions are for your highest good and the highest good of the people that they will impact or are they only to feed the ego beast? Take notice and understand your motivations. Believe it or not, things that will lower or raise your vibe are easily discernable by the way they make you feel if you will just pay attention. There is more on this approach of “third person” and other tips coming up. In the meantime, just practice stepping back when you feel yourself in the middle of rant, a piece of gossip, some questionable behavior and take notice of yourself and your motivations and the physcial feelings from an objective perspective. 

    It is important not to judge what you observe. Just notice! This isn’t an exercise to beat yourself up. This is an exercise to help you recognize that you can take yourself off of automatic pilot and get reacquainted with your true, loving, lively, powerful, manifesting Self.  We will get into more on this step and other tips in the next post. if you have observations or experiences during this practice that you would like to share, I would love to hear from you. Just email me at

    In the meantime, prayers that you recieve exactly what you need in this moment.

    Much Love Robyn

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